The Notebook was for Sissies, but Journals are for Warriors

//The Notebook was for Sissies, but Journals are for Warriors

The Notebook was for Sissies, but Journals are for Warriors

There’s an Incubus song called Warning which explicitly states, “Don’t ever let life pass you by.” If you haven’t heard that song, and especially if you have not ever listened to Incubus, I suggest you go and listen to that song right now because it kicks so much ass. Youtube it.
The sad thing is that countless numbers of people, myriads, let their lives fly away daily. Everyone’s a Jay Gatsby, everyone’s stretching for that green light across the river at the edge of the dock. In this world of symphonies and heartbreaks, dreams and aspirations, very few people stay focused.
And just like A Tale of Two Cities, these are certainly the best of times and the worst of times. How can we keep track of our lives when everything around us seems to be spinning like a hurricane? How do we stay steadfast to our vision?
It is so important to have a dream.
It is even more important to be able to track that dream, to pull it out of the ethers and to measure your progression toward its attainment.
Even in today’s advanced society, many people neglect one of the best ways to measure one’s progression towards a dream:


Why Journal?

Without a journal, your life is going to pretty much play out like Groundhog Day.  It seriously sucks living in a pattern of constant stagnation where there is absolutely no growth, evolution, or involution. Sadly, so many people use their own damn volition to live such mundane lives. It’s the whole duckling syndrome, the sheep syndrome, the conformist’s decree, whatever you wanna call it: people don’t know what they want for themselves, so they follow others.
You are different, though, aren’t you?
You were meant for more.
Hell, you may not even know your purpose, but that won’t stop you from planning out a life of excellence, will it?
Of course not!

Fail to plan, plan to fail. – Proverb

Journaling helps you keep track of shit.
It helps you stay in touch with who you are.
It allows you to keep track of your inner workings.
You get to actually see how your mind evolves throughout the years.
It’s SO much fun going back and reading passages containing insights you had


Do these pecks lie?

If there is ONE thing we can learn from the Governator is that there is MAGIC in written words. This man has done it all.
He’s gone from pro body builder to Mr. Universe.
He’s gone from Mr. Universe to a Hollywood actor.
He went from a sub par Hollywood Actor to the lead star of one of the greatest action movie series to have ever hit the market: The Terminator.
He went from action movie superstar to the governor of California.
Is there anything this man CAN’T do?
No, there isn’t.
Every accomplishment he has achieved so far, for the most part, was written in his journals before he even accomplished anything on the measurable level.
The book that changed everything for him was The Magic of Believing.

There is Magic in Words

There is intense magic in your words. When you write by hand, you active hundreds of tiny muscles that work in harmony with your brain to create new neuropathways. These pathways enable your mind to see a separate reality, one in which your world consists only of the images you have written down.
Then, there is a part of your brain called the RAS- the reticular activating system- that works its ass off to bring you into alignment with the things you have written down. It looks for patterns in your environment that stick out, it looks for patterns that show promise of bringing you closer to your goal.
When you write down your goals, when you journal your life and measure your accomplishments, you’re kicking your RAS (pun intended) in gear.
There’s a more holistic philosophy behind this which essentially teaches that whatever you focus upon in life expands.
I’m not here to administer any holistic doctrine as of this moment.
All I am saying is that there is magic in words.
When you write down your intentions, there is a certain kind of spirit that takes off within the ink, and they breathe in a life of their own.
It is important to WRITE by hand- don’t type your journals.
You will realize that journaling is a very intimate process, and the book you are writing in really becomes an extension of your soul. This is something that computers can’t really match.
The way you move a pencil is much more intimate than the way your fingers blaze across the keyboard.

What to Journal About

This isn’t high school anymore.

Dear Diary,

Please, none of that.

Realize: WHAT YOU FOCUS ON EXPANDS. Whatever you feed your mind constantly, your RAS (pun intended) works night and day to bring your commands into reality.
Don’t write about all the messed up things going on in your life.
Your journal is supposed to be transformational.
Instead, write about how you would like life to BE.
Actually, the best way to journal is to write from the standpoint that you have already achieved the very thing you desire.
If you can’t write in such a tense because you can’t find yourself believing the words, then certainly put your goals off into the future. At least have SOMETHING written.
Write something to strive towards.
Write about goals, write about ambitions.
If you had a dream, write that dream out. Try to decipher its meaning.
Don’t mention anyone that brings you ill feelings; therefore, leave out all references of Mike, the douchebag.
Write about your thoughts.
Write about your feelings.
And if you are feeling down, sure, definitely write about it. But, when you write about negative feelings, don’t end your entry on a negative note. Instead, try to find a way to make that entry more constructive so that it ends off positively; therefore, if you ARE feeling bad, and you have nowhere else to turn to, you can certainly say the following:

Dear Diary,
Mike’s been annoying me somewhat these days, but I just cant help be feel pleased by his behavior. I know that I like him, and I can’t help but think that part of him likes me as well. But, if nothing happens, I’ll be fine. I feel bad, but I know that all pain is just a sign of resistance to the present moment. I don’t need to feel bad. There are plenty more fish in the sea, and there will be plenty more opportunities for intimacy and love in the future. For now, I need to focus on myself and become an even greater woman.

Write however you want to write. Just make sure that all your words bring you to a greater unfolding of the self.
Progression is always sexy.
Journaling lets you realize how much you grew throughout your life.
One day, after you are long gone from this world, somebody will read this journal of yours.
What impression would you like to leave behind?
What would your grandkids say if they read your journal?
You will be remembered for everything you have done in this life.

What we do in life, echoes in eternity.– Maximus, Gladiator

How will you be remembered?
A GREATTTTTTTTTT exercise you can do to start yourself on the write foot is to write your own eulogy.
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  1. Robbye Bentley August 24, 2010 at 7:08 pm - Reply

    I’m all deep back in my witchcraft book, which totally says part of spell casting is the hand written word. Fucking LOVE that I’m all focused on my PURPOSE today, and we’re all on the same page!

    • Numair Qureshi August 25, 2010 at 1:20 am - Reply

      Haha, work that magic, babe. We definitely ARE on the same page. Well, that’s even in the utmost literal sense considering you’re reading this comment on my website, and I wrote my comment on this exact page. =)
      Check out the video comment I posted on this page. It’s below Allen’s response. You don’t have to watch all of it, but I definitely addressed your post in there at the beginning. This is just an experiment I’m trying out. I’ll figure out how to best execute this through experimentation.

  2. Allen August 24, 2010 at 11:29 pm - Reply

    My journaling developed quite by accident really. I used to keep a yearly calendar book on my desk as a way of keeping track of my appointments, dinners, dates, and other social and business obligations. I found this to be so useful. Whenever something “came up”, I could just log the time and date into my calendar so to speak and I could book myself days, weeks or even months in advance. If someone called and wanted me for an event, all I had to do was to look in my trusted calendar book and see if was available (or if I needed to reschedule ha ha).
    This went on for 3 or 4 years. When I filled a book up, I archived it. It was too valuable to throw away you know – this was a part of my life. Then one fateful day, I was de cluttering my office and came across several of these calendar books. I quickly made myself a cup of coffee and settled down in an easy chair to take a Walk down Memory Lane. I learned something interesting about myself that day.
    I readily remembered a great many of the days and events but much to my horror, I did not remember a lot of the more “momentous days” even though I had put notes like…. “horrible lunch with Mike today. What WAS I thinking?”
    Mike who????? Where the hell did I eat?? What did I eat?? Sheesh.
    I was frustrated for not remembering something as catastrophic as my Mike lunch but I also was tiffed because I did not put more details into my journal entries. My memory lane was full of potholes and speed bumps!.
    Good way to remedy that?? Write more details. So I did. I began a journal in earnest. I wrote both good and bad feelings and reactions to events and thoughts I had. Whenever I felt lazy and tempted to skimp on details I remembered my potholes and entered more details.
    I soon progressed to goals and plans. Everything went in there. Grandiose and trivial. Spiritual and carnal. The good, the bad, and the ugly.
    Most of all though, I wrote my plans and goals and how I was going to achieve those goals. I am introspective by nature so to truly know myself I wanted to see the naked facts right there on paper. I recommend being honest with yourself and holding nothing back.
    But…..(there is always a but!), if you do put down negative comments about yourself or others, also look at the situation like studying a DIAMOND. Look at every facet of the cut. Look at it from all directions. Focus on the big picture sure, but also break it down into bite sized chunks.
    There is no black and white. Life is vastly more complicated than that. As souls, we are too. If something or someone turned out not good, look at them from every facet and cut of their diamond – try to write down the other person’s perspective. Try to walk in their shoes – even if you don’t understand or can’t forgive right now – take the situation apart and look at it from every angle and write down your findings.
    By doing this repeatedly, you will find later that the situation or person who hours earlier made you absolutely choleric is not so bad after all. Maybe now you understand where they are coming from.
    There is a saying that History doesn’t feel like History while you are living it. This is so true in our own little histories. Many times when major life changes take place, (like a death, divorce, move, engagement etc.) we can look back through our journals and read about the events leading up to these moments. Nothing will make you laugh and or cry harder than going through your journals and re-living times with someone you just recently lost. The journals then take on a sacredness of their own because you have been chronicling precious moments that can never be relived except in your memory. I know this from experience so trust me on this one.
    I also have used my journals to attain confidence in my abilities to do anything. Sure we all have peaks and valleys. Everyone does – that is part of our lessons here in this life. But when I can go through my journals and track my progress and see the evolvement of my values, my soul growth, my business acumen, my relationships, it is very confidence boosting. It is said that before you can love others, you must love yourself. I think if you are honest in your journal keeping and writing and you are introspective – you will find that there is so much more to you than going to work and cleaning your house and watching Dancing with the Stars. You are a valuable facet of the Infinite Light or God or Energy and whatever you call it and you have much to contribute. And now that you are getting to know yourself you can better see how to make your mark.
    “It is worth reminding ourselves that the greatest joy and satisfaction in life comes from actions we undertake out of concern for others.”
    Sorry for the long post (ever the windbag!)
    p.s. loved the video addition Numair! It is nice “experiencing” YOU. Thanks for that.

    • Numair Qureshi August 25, 2010 at 1:18 am - Reply

      Thanks, man. I’m going to try to make video a more integral part of this whole experience. Look at my personal comment below. Don’t be bummed out by this short response. I address everything you just said in the video you are about to watch. =)

  3. Numair Qureshi August 25, 2010 at 1:20 am - Reply

    And, yeah, Journals definitely are for warriors, Allen. =)

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